General
A Happy Relationship Before Pregnancy
First, you need to have a happy relationship so that your child can be born as the fruit of your happiness. Stress and anxiety disrupt reproductive functions. They cause certain functional disorders not only in women but also in men. You need to recognize the situations in your relationship—or within yourself—that cause stress and lead to anxiety disorders. We know that a mother’s psychological state affects her baby not only before pregnancy but also during pregnancy. For the sake of your baby’s health during pregnancy, it is important to be aware of your psychological state before pregnancy and take action to address any issues that need improvement.
In well-planned pregnancies, couples gain insight into their reproductive health. A woman and a man who have undergone preconception testing and examinations can identify their strengths and weaknesses regarding conception. For example, if the prospective father has a low sperm count and this is preventing fertilization, appropriate measures are taken during pre-pregnancy checkups, and the necessary interventions are performed to help the couple conceive. While it may be difficult to acknowledge and confront your fertility limitations, doing so spares you from futile efforts and allows you to focus on finding a solution rather than wasting time on unsuccessful attempts and experiencing unnecessary stress.
Supportive Environment
Pay attention to the reactions you receive from people around you regarding your desire to have a child. Spend time with people who are encouraging and supportive. Sometimes people can make thoughtless remarks. Comments like “If you haven’t had a child by this age, you’ll never have one now” or “You’re too thin to have a baby” can be hurtful, embarrassing, or confusing to both the prospective mother and father. Even if these people think they’re offering advice, they often fail to realize they’re commenting on a matter that is none of their business. During the pre-pregnancy period, cut these kinds of people out of your life. Share your desire to have a child with people who will support and motivate you.
Spouses should support one another when facing setbacks while trying to conceive. Stress and anxiety can lower fertility levels. You may long to have a child, but don’t forget that you have your spouse before you have a child. You need your spouse to bring your child—a part of you—into the world. That’s why you should make an effort to maintain constructive and loving communication with your spouse. During the process of trying to conceive, couples may occasionally become discouraged and drift apart due to the sadness that comes with the process. In such situations, do not hesitate to seek professional support. If there is a condition in either partner that makes it difficult to conceive, do not blame each other. The stress caused by feelings of guilt can prevent even surmountable health issues from being resolved, making the situation seem even more impossible. Harmony and mutual support between partners are crucial during this process. Your bond with your partner must be strong. A child may be the fruit of your love and the light of your family, but it is not something you can have without your partner. Therefore, without blaming or judging, you must focus on finding the necessary solutions and treatments, and make sure your partner always feels that you are there for them.
The Subconscious Mind and Professional Support
If you’ve had all the necessary tests done and all the results are positive, yet you still haven’t conceived as you’d hoped, explore the underlying psychological causes. Sometimes, when it comes to what we want, our thoughts and feelings create resistance in the back of our minds. This resistance prevents us from achieving our desires, no matter how much we want them. Recognizing the resistance buried deep within your subconscious, confronting your fears, and getting to the root of the problem is the most effective step you can take. Perhaps you’re holding back your desires because of anxieties about the future regarding your partner or your relationship. You’re in the best position to analyze this yourself. If you’re unable to help yourself, you can seek professional support.
Regardless of the circumstances leading up to pregnancy, it’s important to build a bond of trust with your partner. Trust between partners enables you to navigate all stages of the process constructively. Whether you’re trying to conceive naturally or through IVF, make sure your relationship is strong so that you can achieve a positive outcome with either approach. A child is a goal, but not a means to your happiness. You must first have a happy relationship so that your child can come into the world as the fruit of your happiness.