Don't Fall Behind the Times

Staying up-to-date, keeping abreast of developments, and thinking differently from others are essential for achieving success. When you present yourself with a unique perspective and have incorporated all the elements of change within yourself—that is, when you are up-to-date and modern—you stand out. To implement and overcome the responsibilities that change demands, your mindset, mental framework, and character must be strong. When you’re in “I don’t care” mode, your self-confidence ensures you’re always one step ahead of change. The ease that self-confidence provides keeps you free from anxiety and doubt. You carry no worries. With your stress-free attitude, you can follow developments more comfortably. Because when you’re in “I don’t care” mode, you’re at ease. Once anxiety and worry are out of the picture, you can focus solely on moving forward.

Businesses that fail to reinvent themselves are, just like people, doomed to fall behind—or even go under. There is no exception to this rule. If you want to stay relevant, you must keep up with developments, regardless of your profession. For example, let’s say you’re a dentist who graduated from college 20 years ago. If you stick with the knowledge you acquired 20 years ago, you’ll be far behind. New technological advancements are happening every day, and new medications are being introduced. New methods and new forms of treatment are emerging. If you adopt these advancements—or even pioneer them—and offer them to patients awaiting treatment, you will have kept pace with change.

Society Knows Everything

There is a strong connection between not falling behind in the face of change and making a difference. When you don’t resist change and keep yourself up to date, you both make a difference and succeed. Society knows everything, understands everything, and researches everything. If you aren’t up to date, if you resist progress, if you don’t show enough respect for your profession, or if you don’t believe you need to improve yourself, society will notice immediately. Everything is out in the open now, and it’s easy to access any information… People now expect the very best from you. For example, patients who visit a dentist have already learned everything there is to know about implants and fillings. And they expect the dentist to perform these procedures using the most up-to-date technologies.

When you’re in “I don’t care” mode, change is inevitable for you. Keeping up with developments, moving forward by adapting, and staying current are essential for a mind in relaxation mode.

Success has become even harder than it used to be. But if you stay relaxed, maintain high self-confidence, keep up with the times, and continuously work on self-improvement, overcoming these challenges won’t be a problem.

You're in Control of Your Time

To manage your time, you first need to manage yourself. In addition to making good use of your time, you need to have the self-discipline to handle any potential setbacks that may arise.

You can’t control everything. For example, while you’re working day and night to meet a deadline, a friend you care deeply about might need you, and you can’t say no. When you’re in “It doesn’t matter to me” mode, you neither turn your back on your friend nor delay your work. You’ll immediately review your other plans, cancel the ones that aren’t important, reschedule your work for later, and support your friend. In other words, you can make time. You’ll sleep less or watch the new episode of your favorite show later. When you’re in “I don’t mind” mode, you can definitely make time for other tasks that disrupt your plans. This way, you’ll be in control of your time. All you need is a positive and clear mindset.

When you panic, you lose control. You give your friend the cold shoulder, or you worry that you won’t finish your work on time, so you can’t make the most of your time. Because you can’t keep a cool head, you can’t accept unexpected events either.

“I’m always prepared for situations that might arise beyond my control—it doesn’t matter to me.”

“I have control over time.”

“I can make time for anything I want.”

A person with high self-confidence knows what they need to do throughout the day and makes good use of their time. Prioritizing the things you want to do is an excellent way to make good use of your time. When you make good use of your time, you’ll have enough time to give the tasks you need to complete the attention they deserve. It’s just as important to do effective and meaningful work as it is to meet deadlines.

Making good use of time means spending every moment effectively. It means not wasting time needlessly. It means not doing trivial things when you have plenty of time. A person who adopts the “It doesn’t matter to me” mindset understands the value of time and uses it to do meaningful things. They don’t do things haphazardly.

“I know how valuable my time is, and I never waste it. That’s why I’m able to pay close attention to every task I undertake.”

“I take great care in everything I do, and I make good use of my time to ensure that.”

EMPTY GLASS

In my opinion, one of the most significant factors that waste our time is what I call “empty cups.” If you pay attention, you’ll notice there are many empty people around you who drain your time and energy. One of your friends is the sidekick of someone who just wanders around aimlessly. They call you and keep you occupied with trivial matters. Unless you’re in “I don’t care” mode, you’ll go along with them and waste your time together.

When you’re in “I don’t care” mode, you’re already aware of the value of your time, so you’re also aware of the “empty cups” who try to waste your time for no reason. You don’t let anyone waste your time unnecessarily. You don’t become an “empty cup” yourself. You respect everyone’s time and don’t keep anyone busy for no reason.

“I know the value of time, and I spend my time with people who are worth it.”

“I live my friendships to the fullest.”

“I am surrounded by helpful and fulfilling people.”

The Psychological Effects of Mantras

In today’s post, I’ll be discussing the psychological effects of the mantra “Today We Create a Better Version of Ourselves” on people. It’s very important to understand how this mantra creates a protective shield in our minds and psyches.

First, let’s look at the first word of the mantra: “Today.”

One of the most significant factors that disrupt people’s mental well-being is past events. Negative experiences from the past often become obsessions in our minds, and people struggle to shake these thoughts off. In addition, there is anxiety about the future. Today, many people live in a constant state of worry because they don’t know what tomorrow will bring.

This is precisely why we consistently use the word “today” in the mantra. When we say, “Today We Create a More Perfect Version of Ourselves,” we bring our minds back to the present. This approach not only prevents us from getting stuck on past events but also reduces unnecessary worries about the future.

Because, in fact, today is the foundation of a good tomorrow. When today is good, tomorrow will be good too. For this reason, the word “today” in the mantra creates a powerful mental mechanism that protects a person from the burden of the past and the anxiety of the future.

Toward a More Perfect Version

The second important part of the mantra is the phrase “more perfect.”

The goal here is for a person to progress each day toward becoming a psychologically stronger, more resilient, and more self-confident version of themselves. “More perfect” means becoming a person who can adapt better to today’s circumstances.

Life is constantly changing. From time to time, illnesses may arise, economic problems may occur, and social conditions may change. In such situations, what matters is a person’s ability to adapt quickly to changing circumstances.

When we say, “We are creating a better version of ourselves,” we are actually expressing this intention:
We are bringing forth a version of ourselves that can adapt to today’s conditions, find solutions to problems more quickly, and remain strong in the face of challenges.

Physical Dimensions

This mantra has not only a psychological but also a physical dimension.

The human body contains approximately 100 trillion cells. Each of these cells is constantly undergoing a process of renewal. The human body is a living system capable of renewing itself to a large extent over a certain period of time.

When we write down the mantra, we’re actually sending a message not only to our minds but also to every cell in our bodies. When we say, “Today we’re creating a better version of ourselves,” this message reaches the subconscious and spreads from there throughout the entire body.

For this reason, the word “we” in the mantra is extremely important. Because when we say “we,” we are referring to a wholeness that encompasses not only our minds but also our hearts, our spirits, and our bodies.

The Great Army Within Us

We can think of it this way: Each of the trillions of cells in our body works for us. They protect us, much like a great army. When we write a mantra, we can imagine that we are mobilizing this great army. The positive thoughts that arise in our minds reach every cell in our body. In this way, a protective shield is formed, both mentally and physically.

Thanks to this protective shield, a person feels stronger. They become more resilient in the face of challenges. This is because they have established a system that supports them not only mentally but also physically.

A Sense of Unity and Cohesion

The word “we” used in the mantra also represents a sense of unity. Through this word, a connection is formed between our mind, heart, spirit, and body. We convey the following message to every cell: “We are one. We work together. Together, we are strong.”

Thanks to the vibrations emitted by our hearts and brains, this communication is felt throughout our entire bodies. As a result, people become more balanced both mentally and emotionally.

A Psychological Shield

For this reason, people who write mantras regularly begin to feel stronger over time. They become mentally calmer, more balanced, and more resilient. Mantras actually help people build a psychological shield within themselves.

Because there is a tremendous power within each of us that supports us. This power resides in our minds, in our hearts, and in every cell of our bodies. And this power is reaffirmed every day with this phrase: “Today, we are creating a better version of ourselves.”

The Secret That Will Change Your Life

To bring about a major change in your life, you don’t always need methods as complicated as you might think. In fact, even a small but consistent practice can spark a powerful transformation in your life. In this article, I’ll tell you about a very simple method that can change your life.

What’s more, you don’t need to buy anything to do this. You don’t need to take any special training either. All it takes is a short amount of time each day. By setting aside about 15 minutes a day, you can become the person you want to be, live the life you want, and create the social circle and relationships you desire. The method we’ll use for this involves mantras and affirmations—tools that are essential in the field of personal development.

Write New Programs This Summer

Mantras and affirmations help us change old patterns in the subconscious mind and create new ones. Messages sent regularly to the subconscious mind begin to transform our thought patterns and behaviors over time.

The mantra I’ll share in this post is extremely simple. All you need to do is write this mantra on a sheet of A4 paper twice a day—once in the morning and once in the evening. It’s enough to fill both sides of the paper.

The sentence you need to write is as follows:

“Today, We Are Creating a Better Version of Ourselves.”

All you need to do is write this sentence down on paper over and over again. One page in the morning, one page in the evening. As you do this regularly, you’ll begin to notice changes in your life. In fact, most of the time, the people around you will notice these changes before you do. People might start asking you, “What’s happened to you?”

No One But You Can Change Your Life

The purpose of this practice is to help a person create their own ideal self. People begin to construct their own reality based on the messages they send to their subconscious. Therefore, a mantra repeated regularly can transform a person’s thought patterns and behaviors over time.

The important point here is this: No one can change your life. Only you can bring about this change. Because you know best what needs to change in your life.

This method is actually very simple. It takes about 15 minutes to fill out a page on both sides. If you do this twice a day, you’ll spend a total of 20–30 minutes. Other than that, there’s nothing else you need to do.

Many people who have put this practice into action have noticed significant changes in their lives. That’s why I want to share this method and encourage more people to try it. Because knowledge grows when it’s shared. Give it a try, put it into practice, and observe the changes in your life.

A Happy Relationship Before Pregnancy

First, you need to have a happy relationship so that your child can be born as the fruit of your happiness. Stress and anxiety disrupt reproductive functions. They cause certain functional disorders not only in women but also in men. You need to recognize the situations in your relationship—or within yourself—that cause stress and lead to anxiety disorders. We know that a mother’s psychological state affects her baby not only before pregnancy but also during pregnancy. For the sake of your baby’s health during pregnancy, it is important to be aware of your psychological state before pregnancy and take action to address any issues that need improvement.

In well-planned pregnancies, couples gain insight into their reproductive health. A woman and a man who have undergone preconception testing and examinations can identify their strengths and weaknesses regarding conception. For example, if the prospective father has a low sperm count and this is preventing fertilization, appropriate measures are taken during pre-pregnancy checkups, and the necessary interventions are performed to help the couple conceive. While it may be difficult to acknowledge and confront your fertility limitations, doing so spares you from futile efforts and allows you to focus on finding a solution rather than wasting time on unsuccessful attempts and experiencing unnecessary stress.

Supportive Environment

Pay attention to the reactions you receive from people around you regarding your desire to have a child. Spend time with people who are encouraging and supportive. Sometimes people can make thoughtless remarks. Comments like “If you haven’t had a child by this age, you’ll never have one now” or “You’re too thin to have a baby” can be hurtful, embarrassing, or confusing to both the prospective mother and father. Even if these people think they’re offering advice, they often fail to realize they’re commenting on a matter that is none of their business. During the pre-pregnancy period, cut these kinds of people out of your life. Share your desire to have a child with people who will support and motivate you.

Spouses should support one another when facing setbacks while trying to conceive. Stress and anxiety can lower fertility levels. You may long to have a child, but don’t forget that you have your spouse before you have a child. You need your spouse to bring your child—a part of you—into the world. That’s why you should make an effort to maintain constructive and loving communication with your spouse. During the process of trying to conceive, couples may occasionally become discouraged and drift apart due to the sadness that comes with the process. In such situations, do not hesitate to seek professional support. If there is a condition in either partner that makes it difficult to conceive, do not blame each other. The stress caused by feelings of guilt can prevent even surmountable health issues from being resolved, making the situation seem even more impossible. Harmony and mutual support between partners are crucial during this process. Your bond with your partner must be strong. A child may be the fruit of your love and the light of your family, but it is not something you can have without your partner. Therefore, without blaming or judging, you must focus on finding the necessary solutions and treatments, and make sure your partner always feels that you are there for them.

The Subconscious Mind and Professional Support

If you’ve had all the necessary tests done and all the results are positive, yet you still haven’t conceived as you’d hoped, explore the underlying psychological causes. Sometimes, when it comes to what we want, our thoughts and feelings create resistance in the back of our minds. This resistance prevents us from achieving our desires, no matter how much we want them. Recognizing the resistance buried deep within your subconscious, confronting your fears, and getting to the root of the problem is the most effective step you can take. Perhaps you’re holding back your desires because of anxieties about the future regarding your partner or your relationship. You’re in the best position to analyze this yourself. If you’re unable to help yourself, you can seek professional support.

Regardless of the circumstances leading up to pregnancy, it’s important to build a bond of trust with your partner. Trust between partners enables you to navigate all stages of the process constructively. Whether you’re trying to conceive naturally or through IVF, make sure your relationship is strong so that you can achieve a positive outcome with either approach. A child is a goal, but not a means to your happiness. You must first have a happy relationship so that your child can come into the world as the fruit of your happiness.

Define Your Goal Clearly

In order for a person to achieve their goal, they must define it clearly. Unrealistic goals only lead to disappointment. Once what is truly desired has been identified, the goal must be clearly defined. A person must decide what they want, where they want to end up, and what their goal is. For someone who sets their goal according to these criteria, moving forward will be easier. Just as technology helps us find our way more easily with navigation devices… In the same way, when we clearly define and write down our goals—using our brain’s built-in navigation system—and move forward with clear and alert awareness, focusing on the directives from our brain and keeping our eyes on the road, we can reach our destination.

Once a goal has been set, you must envision it. To achieve success, it is important to imagine and visualize it in your mind. No success has ever been achieved without first being imagined. Successes are not accidental or ordinary occurrences. The person who invented the television envisioned a device that would perform the functions of a television. He then began working on how those functions could be realized. Without imagination, there is no motivation or progress. Imagination is the fuel for success and motivation. The realism and energy of dreams help you gain momentum on the path to your goal. The more vivid the dreams, the more motivating they are.

Dreams Give Us the Energy We Need

There are methods to visualizing. Using these methods, it is possible to direct one’s visions in the right direction. Creative imagery and visions can be generated while meditating. While meditating, a person is in an alpha state and a relaxed condition. This is the moment to begin dreaming. What do we want? We want a car. If we want a car, what color will it be, and what make and model will it be? While visualizing the car, it is possible during meditation to imagine touching it, thinking about the roads you’ll travel on, and picturing the passengers who will ride in it. The more vivid this visualization is, the more motivating it becomes. Visions provide a person with the energy they need. The universe returns to you the things you visualize correctly. The universe does not grant what has not been visualized. This has always been the case throughout human history. 

If people don’t clearly define their dreams and goals, the universe won’t be able to provide them with anything specific. It’s also impossible to achieve a goal that isn’t clearly defined.

Goals and dreams must be clearly defined, visualized, and experienced in the mind. Two long meditation sessions a day provide the energy needed to reach your goals. You can recharge your energy through meditation upon waking in the morning and before going to bed at night. Revisiting the visions formed during meditation in the quiet moments throughout the day is motivating. When a person feels tired, bored, or tempted to give up, they should recall small fragments of the visions they created during meditation. A person must define their goals clearly so that the universe, in turn, sends clear opportunities!

Of course, there’s a very important detail here: We can’t get anywhere just by dreaming. However, by telling our minds what outcome we want from the dreams we create—and by following its guidance and the driving force of mantras—we can reach our goal. In other words, it’s not just about dreaming; we have to do, do, and do again… That’s the difference.

The Most Productive Hours

The most effective method for writing mantras involves reprogramming the subconscious mind. Writing is also the best and most direct way to communicate with our subconscious mind. Verbal repetition is only one-tenth as effective as writing. The most productive times for practicing mantras are just before falling asleep and immediately after waking up.

During both of these time periods, the brain is close to the alpha frequency—the state in which we can most easily access the subconscious. If you want to test what the power of thought can do, before going to bed, give yourself both verbal and written affirmations saying, “I will wake up at 5 a.m. tomorrow,” and set your alarm. Keep repeating this affirmation until you fall asleep. You’ll find yourself waking up before 5 a.m., even before the alarm goes off. If we can achieve this, this technique can also help us reach our greater goals. Once you learn to communicate with your inner spirit, it will fulfill your every desire.

Our Brain Never Sleeps

One of the greatest benefits of writing a mantra before going to sleep is that even though our consciousness gradually fades, our brain remains active. When we write the mantra “I am perfect, I am perfect…” for half an hour and then drift off to sleep, these phrases continue to echo in our minds even after we stop writing.

When we sleep, our conscious mind shuts down, and the subconscious mind records these thoughts more easily and more intensely. This is because the conscious mind cannot put up any barriers during these hours. Even while we sleep, our brain and subconscious mind continue to work. Our brain automatically handles breathing, digestion, circulation—in short, everything necessary to sustain our lives.

“I’m Getting Better Every Day”

Our subconscious mind processes the messages, images, and words we send it much more effectively, erasing old programs with our new mantras and creating new ones. When we wake up, we feel more energetic and powerful. And every day, we set out on the path to becoming our best selves. Pharmacist Emile Coué applied the mantra method to his patients. “While taking your medications, repeat the mantras regularly,” he said. He wrote at the bottom of his prescriptions, “Every day, in every aspect of life, I am getting better—of course I am, of course I will…”

When mantras proved effective in patients’ recovery process, Coué became famous for systematizing this method. When we say, “Every day, in every aspect of my life, I am getting better,” this becomes a general mantra and helps our development as a whole.

Learn to Appreciate Yourself

Self-confidence means having positive self-perceptions, loving oneself, having a healthy sense of competence and self-worth, and being at peace with oneself. A lack of self-confidence, on the other hand, is the exact opposite of this. Eighty percent of self-confidence is formed between the ages of 0 and 5. The foundations of a person’s self-confidence are laid through the influence of parents and the surrounding environment. For this reason, the development of self-confidence—which will form the basis of one’s self-concept in adulthood—must be approached with great care.

Personal development is one of the most important steps to take in building self-confidence. Reading regularly and working on self-improvement boost a person’s confidence. People fear what they do not know. The antidote to fear is knowledge. When a person delves into a subject they know well, they gain self-confidence. This also eliminates fear. Motivating oneself through positive self-talk is crucial for building self-confidence. Mantras and affirmations practiced through self-talk also boost self-confidence.

Start by Setting Small Goals

Without needing the approval of others, a person should appreciate themselves with every step they take. It is important to set small goals and appreciate yourself as you achieve them.

To have self-confidence, you must be energetic. High energy restores a person’s self-confidence. A person with high energy is someone who radiates a bright glow. No one should view themselves as inferior to anyone else. Everyone has their own unique qualities, strengths, and weaknesses. While working on their shortcomings or weaknesses and striving to resolve issues, they should never form negative judgments about these aspects of themselves.

Another thing you need to do to build self-confidence is to live in the present. A person who lives in the present does what needs to be done right now. Not thinking about what you did yesterday or what you’ll do tomorrow makes you feel good.

Being Active Boosts Self-Confidence

People should appreciate themselves for doing what they need to do. Taking action is important; procrastinating or avoiding tasks undermines self-confidence, but taking action boosts it. One of the biggest things that undermines self-confidence is worrying about what will happen tomorrow. Worries and thoughts like “It’ll turn out this way,” “Things will unfold like this,” or “What if it doesn’t happen?” push a person into a negative state of mind. Honesty is the foundation of self-confidence. A person must be honest with others and with themselves. They must not deceive anyone—especially themselves. A person must keep the promises they make to themselves. In this way, their self-respect and self-confidence grow. 

One of the most important factors for self-confidence is maintaining a positive outlook. Believing that things will turn out well helps ensure that they do. Positive thoughts prepare your brain for the positive. It’s hard to think about tomorrow; to ensure that tomorrow is good, you must make sure that today is good. To have a good day, you need to wake up on the right foot. When you wake up, you should tell yourself, “Today will be a good day for me,” and make sure it is.

We Can Reach the Universe Through Meditation

There is one point I always emphasize when discussing the subconscious: Our subconscious works in tandem with the universe. We connect to the universe through our subconscious. Through meditation, we can communicate with our subconscious. While meditating, our conscious mind cannot limit us. We are in our most relaxed state. With a calm mind, we can navigate our subconscious as we please. Why do I insist on meditation? Because you’re aligning your brain’s frequency with that of the universe. Our brain’s frequency becomes in harmony with the universe’s frequency, allowing us to communicate with the universe comfortably and without any barriers. Your prayers are answered, and you can easily convey the messages you wish to send to your subconscious; the messages and energies you want to send to others reach their destination and connect with the universe…

You should make meditation a habit. You should meditate almost every day, whenever you have the chance. Meditation can be practiced using practical, applicable, simple, and easy methods—without getting bogged down in theory. No matter which technique you use, what matters in meditation is relaxing your body and connecting with your subconscious.

Be Aware of Your Creative Power

There is a power within us, just like the genie in Aladdin’s magic lamp. Whatever we wish for comes true. But we must also know how to make those wishes. We can’t summon the genie by banging on the lamp. Just as we summon him by caressing the lamp and using kind words, our communication with the universe should be the same. When you tap into your subconscious to communicate with the universe, always remain calm, be kind to yourself, and be honest. Love yourself; value yourself. Just as you need to speak gently to summon the genie from the lamp, speak positive, kind words to yourself to unleash the power within. The more you love yourself, the better you can use your creative power.

As you become aware of your creative power, creating anything you desire will be no problem for you. When you realize that you can attract whatever you want into your life at any moment, you’ll feel at ease.

Your Heart Must Be Pure

Work toward what you want, strive for it, and respect the universe. If you are honest and your intentions are for the good of others, what you desire will come to you. If you don’t just think of yourself but also contribute to your family members, money will come to you. A person who is a blessing to their family and community will always be met with blessings.

Do you want to make money? If you want to do something good with the money you earn, it will surely come. You’ll contribute to people’s well-being and growth—it will come to you. If you think not just of yourself but of everyone’s well-being, it will come to you. But if you act out of selfishness—saying, “I want this money, I want it so badly, and I want it only for myself”—you won’t achieve anything with that self-centered energy. Thinking selfishly and only in your own interest creates a barrier between you and the universe.

We must not forget—we need to be honest at this point. Your heart must be pure, and you must think positive thoughts about others. When communicating with the universe, you will always be rewarded for your pure intentions. The universe recognizes our lies, our ulterior motives, and our negative thoughts; because of this aspect of our character, it does not grant our wishes. We must be honest with God, with nature, and with the universe. And, of course, with people as well… We must say, “With this wish, I will not harm anyone.” Of course, it doesn’t end with just wishing. We must do what is necessary. We must make an effort.

It is very important to steer clear of selfish desires and attitudes that say, “Only me, me, me.” When you ask for something, doing so in a way that benefits everyone ensures that your wish will be granted. The universe will give you what you want in abundance.

"Living in the Moment"

Being in the moment, living in the moment, can actually be defined as follows: being aware of yourself, being aware of other people, being aware of your surroundings and events, being aware of everything… The only way to be aware is to stop and analyze while everyone else is moving along, while life goes on, and while everything is flowing.

Who shapes tomorrow? We do. When do we do it? We do it now. Our choices, our thoughts, and our character shape our future at every moment. That’s why living in the moment is the key to happiness and success.

A person stuck in the past constantly thinks about the negative things they’ve experienced. Over time, these thoughts turn into shackles weighing them down. Or let’s consider someone who lives only in the future. They put everything off, saying, “I’ll do this, I’ll do that.” But if you don’t do what’s necessary now, if you don’t try to take the necessary steps, you won’t get there. You have to be here now and take the steps necessary for tomorrow so that you can reach that tomorrow. You can’t move forward by standing still—you won’t reach tomorrow that way.

THE LESSONS SHOULD STAY WITH YOU

The secret to success, living a good life, communicating better with others, and being happy is living in the moment. People who live in the past are often unhappy. This is because they constantly replay past events—especially the negative ones—in their minds, reenacting them over and over again, and thus miss out on the present. When we replay an event from the past over and over in our minds, the brain doesn’t just remind us of the event—it also makes us feel the emotions we experienced at that moment. Under the influence of these negative emotions, the body releases the same hormones. When you recall an event from the past that frightened you, your heart rate increases, and your body’s adrenaline levels rise. You end up making your body experience the same effects over and over again. The same events are replayed right down to your cells. You become unhappy—both mentally and physically—time and time again. Constantly remembering a positive event from the past can sometimes be good, but other times it isn’t. Thinking things like, “I used to be very rich but I’m not anymore,” or “I used to have a very happy relationship but now I’m alone,” won’t do you any good and will only make you unhappy. Whether the events from the past were positive or negative, you should learn your lesson and let the rest go. The only things that should remain in your mind regarding the past are the lessons you’ve learned.

A character in “It doesn’t matter to me” mode doesn’t dwell on past events. Whenever they come to mind, the character remains in a relaxed state. Without replaying them over and over in their mind, they calmly let the memories go. They always remember the lessons they’ve learned. They don’t let the past undermine or negatively affect the present or the future.

DON'T BE ONE OF THOSE WHO WASTE TODAY

In addition to those who live in the past, there are also those who squander the present out of anxiety about the future. Those who fear the future live in constant dread. Obsessed with what might happen tomorrow, they fail to assess the events of today with a pessimistic mindset. They ruin their present by worrying, “What if this happens? What if that happens?” A pessimistic person believes that the future is uncertain and will always bring bad things. They project this belief onto everything in their life. They never expect anything good from the future. They doubt every step ahead. “The economy is good right now, but what if it gets bad in the coming days…?” “My relationship is good right now, but what if they cheat on me and I end up unhappy…?” “I get along great with my friend, but what if they stab me in the back…?” These thoughts also undermine their self-confidence; they can’t do what they need to do today, and most importantly, they can’t be happy today. Worrying about the future doesn’t make anyone happy today either.

On the other hand, a character in “I don’t care” mode interprets the uncertainty of the future in a positive light. They always expect good things from the future. They are full of hope. They never want to deprive themselves of the wonderful things the future will bring, and they remain alert and mindful at all times to stay open to opportunities. The experiences of yesterday, what today brings, and what the future holds always excite and delight them. Whenever they think about their future, they feel a sense of joy.

A character in “It doesn’t matter to me” mode, when faced with the need to take a step toward their future, neither adopts a pessimistic attitude nor indulges in unrealistic, rose-colored fantasies. They always make realistic assessments of their future and set goals accordingly. Their expectations for the future are also objective and realistic. They have no anxiety about the future because they have complete confidence in themselves. “If a problem arises, I’ll solve it just as I’ve done before—it doesn’t matter to me,” they say.