Do We Want to Change?

Do We Want to Change?

Before taking any steps toward change, there are questions that need to be answered. Do we want to change? Do we want to change our lives? It would not be right to take any steps toward change without being certain of the answers to these questions. Change cannot happen unless a person makes the decision on their own, of their own free will and desire. However, if a person truly wants change and is determined, the steps to take are quite simple.

Since the ideas others offer during this process will be quite subjective, they won’t yield lasting results in the long run. Of course, we’ll listen to everyone, filter these ideas through our own minds, and make the final decision ourselves.

Questions Should Be Healthy

The key to the change process is for the individual to decide for themselves what kind of change they want. Once a person acknowledges that they have a problem or a shortcoming, the change process begins. After that, asking questions about this change and finding answers will help them take a major step forward in the change process.

During the change process, it is important to bring issues to light through “brainstorming” and to put these issues down on paper. Written work always has a clearer impact on the human mind. When articulating questions and issues, every question that genuinely piques one’s curiosity should be asked. The question, “What are the things I want to change about myself or my life?” can be a good starting point here.

Roadmap

Listing the answers that come to mind one after another, without overthinking, will give us a roadmap. Answers that flow out instantly—such as “I need to get up early, I need to be organized, I must not give up in the face of difficulties”—will help our true needs become clearly apparent.

To change our lives, we must be willing to make radical decisions. If we merely pretend to make radical decisions instead of actually doing so, the result will be disappointment. For a wound to heal, more is needed than just a bandage. If necessary, surgical intervention must be performed. In fact, if the problem is severe enough to harm a person—for example, if it has become gangrenous—it must be amputated. Being prepared to make and implement these decisions is at the heart of change.