General
When we focus on our fears, when we don’t know what we want or what we want to do, and when we don’t know which path to choose, we become indecisive. In short, indecision is a lack of self-confidence. A person lacking self-confidence cannot take action or accept responsibility. A person whose mind is constantly filled with doubts cannot make sound decisions. Even when they do make decisions, they always end up making the wrong choice. They cannot make the right decisions—neither for themselves nor for others.
The “It doesn’t matter to me” mindset leads to clearer, faster, more realistic, and more accurate decisions. The more at peace, calm, and self-aware a person is, the faster and more accurately they make decisions. They make the right choices along the paths they choose.
When starting a new project or embarking on a new path, he doesn’t waste time overthinking. His mind is calm and clear. He quickly clarifies the decision he will make. And he sets out on that path. But in the opposite situation—with a mind clouded by prejudices and anxieties stemming from past failures—it is very difficult to make the right decisions. The first thing to do here is to calm down. It’s about staying calm, being confident—in other words, being in the “I don’t care” mindset.
After all, when you’re in a calm state of mind, you make the right decisions. Decisions made when your mind is clouded can never be the right ones. When your mind is in disarray, your brain isn’t at peace. That’s why you need to calm your mind.
Slowing Down Often Speeds Things Up
In some situations, you may need to make a decision very quickly. Failing to make a quick decision can cause you to miss out on major opportunities. When I say “make a quick decision,” I’m not talking about decisions made in a rush or without thinking. Being quick doesn’t mean being hasty. Don’t overlook this. We can make mistakes when we’re in a hurry. But making a quick decision is different.
By calmly drawing on the life experiences we’ve gained up to that point, and by thoroughly analyzing, examining, and synthesizing events, we can make the right decisions. The key here is to make decisions as if you were cooking a meal over low heat. Gather all the data in your mind, and let it mull over it for a while. Let the thoughts flow freely through your mind.
For example, you receive a job offer from abroad that requires an immediate response. It could offer you far more opportunities than your current job—such as a promotion, a higher salary, and so on. If you know yourself well, have clearly defined your priorities, and can thoroughly analyze how your decisions will affect the people around you, you’ll be able to give an appropriate response. You might say, “I can’t live that far away from my family. Since my family is my top priority, I can’t move abroad.” Or you might say, “Living abroad has always been my dream, and I’m sure my family will support me in this. My priority is building a successful career. I can accept this offer.” There’s no such thing as a good or bad decision. What matters is choosing the decision that’s best and right for you.