General
Always Be Honest
Children always look up to their parents. You must never forget this. If we aren’t honest, if we lie, if we speak ill of others behind their backs, or if we cheat, it’s only natural that children will follow our example and do the same. Therefore, if you want your child to grow up to be a successful and productive member of society, you must first set a good example for them.
Honesty is the most important factor in raising children. Be honest with your children. If you are not honest with your child—if you do not stand by what you say and the promises you make—your child will not believe you. A lack of belief will cause their trust in you to be shaken. Furthermore, as they see you lying, breaking your word, or being dishonest, they will mimic your behavior. For this reason, never be inconsistent in your actions. If you smoke, you cannot tell your child, “Don’t smoke.” If you use slang when speaking, your children will behave the same way.
Don't Make Promises You Can't Keep
Children are a reflection of their parents. Whatever behavior you see in a child is also present in you. For healthy child development, parents must first work on their own personal growth.
Always encourage your child to speak truthfully. To help ensure this, be honest in your own relationships, conversations, and discussions. Don’t lie, and don’t make promises you can’t keep.
Give your child motivational rewards. You can use incentives that won’t be perceived as bribes but will boost their motivation and enthusiasm. Always motivate your child, speak positively, and lift them up and praise them. Criticize the action they took, not the child themselves. Instead of saying, “You’re stupid, you’re an idiot, you always do this,” say, “I think you did this wrong for this reason—you broke the glass because you didn’t hold it properly.” Don’t attribute it to their personality, ability, or brain structure… Because children are particularly negatively affected by the derogatory accusations they hear from their parents, and this can result in subconscious trauma.
What You Write Is What You Get!
Parents should be very careful not to have arguments or fights in front of their children. This is because such arguments can cause severe trauma in children’s young minds. Using harsh words, swearing, and behaving disrespectfully toward one another can lead the child to become that kind of person in the future. Whatever we don’t want our children to do, we must refrain from doing ourselves. After all, children look up to us as role models.
Parents serve as role models for their children. Children mimic you. If a child has bad habits, you are the reason. Remember, children are like a blank page; whatever you write on it, you’ll see it reflected in your child later on.